romance novels versus porn

people are weird. and weird people want to argue with you about weird things.
I'm sitting in the bookstore, and a weird Asian fellow (approximately my age, I would guess) asks me what romance novels are, why people read them, and the relationship of them to sex, desire, lust, romance, and porn. And, whenever I would try to educate, inform, or opine, the dude would yell over me with his ill-formed hypothesis likening romance novels to hateful depictions of male-female relationships, akin to porn. I don't like arguing with uninformed people, and I don't like being yelled at. And, I don't like discussing sex and sexuality with a stranger with an axe to grind.
weird, weird, weird.
more soon... i have random pictures to post. I heart my camera phone. (I don't heart the charges for mailing myself the photos)